Gay and Marriage

One of the questions I am frequently asked by straight couples is: " is being in a gay marriage any different than being in a straight marriage?" and "Do one of you take on the 'masculine roll'?". It is always entertaining to have such interest and wonder of same sex culture.

To be honest, being in a gay marriage is really not different than being in a straight marriage, especially when it comes to house duties.

Gay or straight, both couples take on, and in most cases share daily house duties.
Like a straight marriage, in a gay marriage one person may take on one specific roll above another. For instance, one may cut the lawn, take out the trash, and do the general home repairs; while the other will attend to the laundry, cooking, and cleaning more often.
This however, does not mean that in the gay relationship one is more masculine/ feminine than the other. This is not to say that stereo-types do not exist. They do.

In my experience, I have found that many gay couples, seem to share the tasks more equally than many straight couples. As a not so stereotypical feminine gay woman who happens to be married, I can tell you that both my partner and I take turns sharing our household duties.

My partner and I hate house work; aka the evil necessity of a pretty place. Believe me when I say if we could hire a maid, we would. We try to be a bit creative when it comes to doing work and often place friendly bets during some of our many card games we play. Instead of money, we wager house duties. It makes mundane house tasks a bit more bearable; not to mention really fun when you bet on and win who takes the trash out for the next week.

As far as gender rolls go, I think it's pretty safe to say that neither one of us takes on a specific roll as a man and woman would. We share and share alike.

Aside from tasks, the toughest part about being in a gay marriage is the lack support from our own government. ( I am pretty sure I am not the only one out there who is gay and married). I am also so disgusted at the absolute ignorance our society at this day and age. People are ignorant if they do not understand. That is why I am here to share all of my experiences so others can learn that we are people too, doing the same thing as straight families...every single day.